Previously on The Prom Problem: I talked about dresses for this 2014 season
Hey guys. So today I am doing another post about the social aspect of Prom. Prom creates drama and there is nothing anyone can do about it. I want to talk about being left out at prom time because it happens and it's not okay. I looked up a bunch of different situations and I didn't feel like people gave the realistic advise, so I am going to try to present a different side to the situation.
Issue 1:
At my prom we have a sit down dinner and we have to make tables. I have these three other friends who I always hang out with. I guess they are closer to each other than I am to them because I just started hanging out with them this year but irregardless, they are my friends. I thought the four of us and our dates would sit together at prom...but then I found out that the three of them are sitting with another friend of theirs and they left me out of the group. I don't want to end up randomly seated but I also feel betrayed by my friends.
Solution 1:
Honestly, I know I should tell you that they really aren't your friends if they leave you out like that and that your should ice them out an forget about them because they are bitches. But I am not going to tell you that. When your friends leave you out, it's hard to just ignore them because they are your friends and you do not feel ready to do that. I would say start trying to make other friends but it is hard sometimes to leave the ones you have. I don't know that I would go out of my way for them, but I wouldn't drop them like a hot potato because I am sure that your not feeling that. Icing someone out is never a good idea because you never know if they are going to change or if you are going to be in a professional situation with them/ run into them in life and you don't want to be holding onto old high school grudges. Recognize that they were not nice to you and make new friends and slowly drift away. That way you won't burn bridges.
Issue 2:
I don't have a date and am too afraid to ask someone.
Solution 2:
Everyone has date anxiety over Prom. It's normal. If you really do not want to miss out on the experience, ask a friend who you are really good friends with. It's okay and totally not weird. You don't have to do a huge prom posal that everyone is going to see if you are nervous about asking someone. Do it privately, this will make you feel better because if they do say no, then no one else had to know about it.
Issue 3:
Everyone at my school goes to post prom and then the beach. There is a lot of alcohol but I do not drink underage (I love in America). I feel like I should go because it is "social" but it is an environment that makes me really uncomfortable. Everyone goes to post prom and I feel like I am going to be judged for not
Going. Even my date wants to go. What do I do?
Solution 3:
Don't go. It seems as if this generation of high school kids do an excessive amount of partying. There is nothing wrong with obeying the law and not drinking underage. And there is nothing wrong with skipping an event if it is going to make you uncomfortable. If I were you, I would honestly explain how I feel to my date and put my foot down about not going. Of course there will always be judging people, but at the end of the day, all high school teens graduate and go separate ways and what someone thought about you in high school is not indicative of who you are. Sometimes, kids get judged for doing the right thing and that is wrong, but it happens and you just have to believe in yourself and know that you are ultimately going to turn out to be the better,
Happier, more successful person.
Okay that is it for today's episode! Just a little disclaimer, I am speaking in first person here but these are not situations necessarily that I have been in but I have certainly witnessed them and felt like they were best portrayed in first person. Stay tuned for more!
Xoxo
Hey guys. So today I am doing another post about the social aspect of Prom. Prom creates drama and there is nothing anyone can do about it. I want to talk about being left out at prom time because it happens and it's not okay. I looked up a bunch of different situations and I didn't feel like people gave the realistic advise, so I am going to try to present a different side to the situation.
Issue 1:
At my prom we have a sit down dinner and we have to make tables. I have these three other friends who I always hang out with. I guess they are closer to each other than I am to them because I just started hanging out with them this year but irregardless, they are my friends. I thought the four of us and our dates would sit together at prom...but then I found out that the three of them are sitting with another friend of theirs and they left me out of the group. I don't want to end up randomly seated but I also feel betrayed by my friends.
Solution 1:
Honestly, I know I should tell you that they really aren't your friends if they leave you out like that and that your should ice them out an forget about them because they are bitches. But I am not going to tell you that. When your friends leave you out, it's hard to just ignore them because they are your friends and you do not feel ready to do that. I would say start trying to make other friends but it is hard sometimes to leave the ones you have. I don't know that I would go out of my way for them, but I wouldn't drop them like a hot potato because I am sure that your not feeling that. Icing someone out is never a good idea because you never know if they are going to change or if you are going to be in a professional situation with them/ run into them in life and you don't want to be holding onto old high school grudges. Recognize that they were not nice to you and make new friends and slowly drift away. That way you won't burn bridges.
Issue 2:
I don't have a date and am too afraid to ask someone.
Solution 2:
Everyone has date anxiety over Prom. It's normal. If you really do not want to miss out on the experience, ask a friend who you are really good friends with. It's okay and totally not weird. You don't have to do a huge prom posal that everyone is going to see if you are nervous about asking someone. Do it privately, this will make you feel better because if they do say no, then no one else had to know about it.
Issue 3:
Everyone at my school goes to post prom and then the beach. There is a lot of alcohol but I do not drink underage (I love in America). I feel like I should go because it is "social" but it is an environment that makes me really uncomfortable. Everyone goes to post prom and I feel like I am going to be judged for not
Going. Even my date wants to go. What do I do?
Solution 3:
Don't go. It seems as if this generation of high school kids do an excessive amount of partying. There is nothing wrong with obeying the law and not drinking underage. And there is nothing wrong with skipping an event if it is going to make you uncomfortable. If I were you, I would honestly explain how I feel to my date and put my foot down about not going. Of course there will always be judging people, but at the end of the day, all high school teens graduate and go separate ways and what someone thought about you in high school is not indicative of who you are. Sometimes, kids get judged for doing the right thing and that is wrong, but it happens and you just have to believe in yourself and know that you are ultimately going to turn out to be the better,
Happier, more successful person.
Okay that is it for today's episode! Just a little disclaimer, I am speaking in first person here but these are not situations necessarily that I have been in but I have certainly witnessed them and felt like they were best portrayed in first person. Stay tuned for more!
Xoxo
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