Regrets and mistakes our memories make. Hey guys! Today, we are talking about dating. What is okay...and what I would suggest avoiding. I really don't have much else for the intro so lets just get into it.
First Kiss:
Yes its true, a lot of boys and girls have their first kiss in Middle School. But is that the best idea? Honestly, this is up to you. If you really feel like you are ready for it, then go ahead. However, you want your first kiss to be special. Do not just kiss someone who is into you so that you can get your first kiss over with or because all of your friends have had their first kiss. When I was in Middle School, there was a guy who I would have loved to have had my first kiss with, but I decided to wait because I personally thought that Middle School was too young. Middle School relationships seem like all the real deal while you are in Middle School, but you do not have to be graduated for more than 24 hours to realize that they are not the real thing. I'm not saying that all Middle School relationships are not real and that you do not really have feelings for someone, because you do. What I am saying is that although you are maturing, you are not mature enough to foster a mature relationship. As long as your dating relies on one of your parents driving you somewhere, its not the real thing yet. For that reason, I would recommend waiting on the first kiss until you are mature enough to be in a real relationship. By doing this, you won't look back and say "my first kiss was stupid, horrible" or "I wish I had not had my first kiss with him/her".
Can You Fall In Love in Middle School?:
Personally, I say yes. If you are mature enough to have feelings for someone else, you are mature enough to fall in love. Does this mean you should act on it right now? Probably not. I believe that if you really love someone and they really love you it will all work out in good time. That could be eight years from now or it could be two...but if it is meant to be, it will happen. Therefore, there is no need to rush into anything and screw it up so that you do not have a future with the person.
Going on Dates:
When I was in Middle School, I had two friends who were dating each other but only texted and never talked in person. This is not really dating. I also had friends who went to movies in groups of 20 and kissed the person who they liked. This is not dating either. The best, is the couple who's mom drives them somewhere and stays because you are too young to be left in a restaurant alone. That is not dating either. Getting my drift? Really dating in Middle School is next to impossible. People who date talk in person just as much if not more than they talk online. Real couples do not bring 18 of their best friends on their date because it is not safe for kids to go alone. Parents certainly do not have to supervise a real date. Like I have said before, it is so much more special when you can actually do the relationship right with someone than when you get involved too young.
Okay, that is all I am going to address in this post. If you have anything else you want me to talk about, leave a comment below and I will make a follow up post.
xoxo
*GIRLS AND BOYS YOUR AGE SHOULD NOT BE HAVING SEX YOU ARE TOO YOUNG* That's all I'm going to say on that topic.
Online Chatting:
I know that I am starting with the worst first but I have encountered girls in Middle School who think that chatting with cute guys on anonymous dating sites is okay. When you are online, you can be whoever you want to be. You can say your 13 when you are really 35. Online stranger danger is a real thing and there have been people seriously harmed/kidnapped or killed because of it. You do not know who you are talking to online when chatting with a stranger. At any age, it is a risk, but at Middle School age, its a huge risk and one not worth taking. You should NOT online date or chat with strangers no matter what the excuse at you age if ever. So just save your life and don't do it.
First Kiss:
Yes its true, a lot of boys and girls have their first kiss in Middle School. But is that the best idea? Honestly, this is up to you. If you really feel like you are ready for it, then go ahead. However, you want your first kiss to be special. Do not just kiss someone who is into you so that you can get your first kiss over with or because all of your friends have had their first kiss. When I was in Middle School, there was a guy who I would have loved to have had my first kiss with, but I decided to wait because I personally thought that Middle School was too young. Middle School relationships seem like all the real deal while you are in Middle School, but you do not have to be graduated for more than 24 hours to realize that they are not the real thing. I'm not saying that all Middle School relationships are not real and that you do not really have feelings for someone, because you do. What I am saying is that although you are maturing, you are not mature enough to foster a mature relationship. As long as your dating relies on one of your parents driving you somewhere, its not the real thing yet. For that reason, I would recommend waiting on the first kiss until you are mature enough to be in a real relationship. By doing this, you won't look back and say "my first kiss was stupid, horrible" or "I wish I had not had my first kiss with him/her".
Can You Fall In Love in Middle School?:
Personally, I say yes. If you are mature enough to have feelings for someone else, you are mature enough to fall in love. Does this mean you should act on it right now? Probably not. I believe that if you really love someone and they really love you it will all work out in good time. That could be eight years from now or it could be two...but if it is meant to be, it will happen. Therefore, there is no need to rush into anything and screw it up so that you do not have a future with the person.
Going on Dates:
When I was in Middle School, I had two friends who were dating each other but only texted and never talked in person. This is not really dating. I also had friends who went to movies in groups of 20 and kissed the person who they liked. This is not dating either. The best, is the couple who's mom drives them somewhere and stays because you are too young to be left in a restaurant alone. That is not dating either. Getting my drift? Really dating in Middle School is next to impossible. People who date talk in person just as much if not more than they talk online. Real couples do not bring 18 of their best friends on their date because it is not safe for kids to go alone. Parents certainly do not have to supervise a real date. Like I have said before, it is so much more special when you can actually do the relationship right with someone than when you get involved too young.
Okay, that is all I am going to address in this post. If you have anything else you want me to talk about, leave a comment below and I will make a follow up post.
xoxo
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